You Can’t Have It - Worthy in the face of an INJUST system - A Conversation with the Block
There’s a man. Let’s call him Rafe.
Rafe’s in a place most people don’t talk about unless they’re drunk, desperate, or quietly cracking inside.
He’s not broke-broke — not yet — but nothing’s flowing. No income. No traction. No clarity. And worst of all, no sense of what the hell he’s supposed to do.
(This is often where people begin. The presenting problem sounds practical — money, career, direction — but what’s underneath is usually a deeper block to self-worth, power, or safety. If you’re navigating this edge, this work might speak to you.)
“I don’t know how to earn money,” he says. “I’ve thought about everything , coaching, 1-to-1 work, investing, getting a job, manual labour. I circle through all the ideas. Nothing sticks. I feel stuck. Like something’s holding me down and I don’t even know what it is.”
He’s not lazy. He’s not lost. But he’s suspended — like life hit pause, but forgot to unpause. And the weight of that stillness is starting to press into his ribs.
We sit there for a second. No fixing. Just naming it.
I ask him what he actually wants to feel , not do, not achieve, not prove. Just feel.
(Starting with feeling bypasses the “what should I do” loop. Clarity rarely comes from the head. It starts in the nervous system, in the body. This is the foundation of how I support clients in this deeper kind of work.)
He says, “I want to feel good. Aligned. Powerful. I want to have regular income and time for relationships, for fun. I want to feel like myself — and not be scrambling.”
So we shape it into words:
I feel good, aligned, and powerful while earning regular income and having time for fun and relationships.
It sounds simple. But simple can feel impossible.
He tries to say the sentence. But there’s static. Not fear, not doubt. A kind of buzzing dissonance in his system, like an old wire shorting out behind the walls.
(When the words don’t land, it means the subconscious doesn’t agree. That’s where we listen. Resistance isn’t the enemy — it’s a doorway. This is where most transformation begins — not in action, but in meeting what’s real. Learn more.)
So we process the static in its presence.
What shows up is a message. An internal belief:
My worth as a person and my financial worth are the same.
As soon as he names it, something deep starts to move.
He tries to let in a new truth:
I am 100% worthy, even if I never earn another cent.
The moment it lands, his body reacts — not violently, but like a soft shock. He says it feels like buzzing. Static.
(When the nervous system buzzes or goes numb, it’s often releasing the tension of a belief that’s been unconsciously running the show. This is where the body begins to rewire itself. My approach is designed for those who want to actually move through this, not talk about it. If that’s you, here’s the work.)
We don’t argue. We ask.
“Is a baby worthy, even if it does nothing?”
“Of course,” he says.
“So what happened to your worth?”
That lands somewhere slower than thought. The buzzing quiets.
We reshape the goal again:
I feel good, aligned, and powerful as I receive regular income in ways that honor my time, energy, and relationships, knowing my worth is always present.
Better. Truer. Still… something pushes back.
“I still have this voice that says, ‘Nope. You can’t have it.’”
(These ‘Nope’ moments are gold. They reveal a deeper part of the psyche still trying to keep us safe , often by protecting us from visibility, success, or even change itself.)
We ask it what it’s protecting.
The answer comes blurting out: Justice.
Not personal justice — systemic justice.
He says the word “lawmakers,” and the air thickens.
The belief underneath is:
As long as the system is corrupt, it’s not safe — or even right — for me to thrive.
(When the subconscious associates thriving with betrayal of a cause, a group, or even the collective, it will block success to stay loyal. This is rarely logical. But it’s real. These are the layers we often face in this kind of coaching. Explore the process.)
We name a new truth:
I can have ease and income, even when the system is unjust.
And then comes something wordless — a message from the deeper self. A knowing.
He doesn’t have to understand it. He can feel it.
Then he says:
“I want a truth that transcends the system.”
We shape it together:
I feel powerful, free, and fully supported as I receive abundant income and live in ease , regardless of the illusions or dysfunctions of the system. My reality is sovereign, aligned, and mine to create.
And something in him clicks.
It’s not an instant windfall. He doesn’t suddenly have the perfect offer to hand.
But the block?
It’s no longer driving the car.
He is back in a sense of alignment, peace, and self-control.
And in that space, he steps into new possibility ,
his head held high,
and ready to go.
For Those Who Are Really Ready
I work with truth-seeking souls who are done forcing life and ready to live from what’s real.
This work is not about tips, tricks, or performance. It’s about releasing control, meeting what’s true, and reclaiming the power that was never lost, only hidden.
